What is a couple?

Some say: It's two people who bicker all their lives but never part ways.

Some also say: It is two people who have experienced love and are performing the roles of kinship.

No matter what the argument is, a married couple is essentially two separate individuals who, in the process of seeking common ground while reserving differences and integrating with each other, become a shared destiny community.

As the poet Gu Cheng said in "At the Door":

The grass is tying its seeds, the wind is shaking its leaves, we stand there, not speaking, and it is already beautiful.

In fact, whether it's between husband and wife or among friends, a lasting relationship hinges on the word "comfort."

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Able to chat comfortably without awkward silences.

《诗经》中有言：
He who understands me, knows my worries; he who does not understand me, asks what I seek.
理解我的人，知道我忧愁；不理解我的人，问我在寻求什么。
夫妻之间的聊天，说的是话，讲的却是情。
你天马行空地讲，对方饶有兴致地听。
In "The Kangxi Dynasty," whenever Kangxi visits his favorite concubine Rongfei's palace, he always says, "I want to talk to you."
讲一些家国大事，朝堂趣闻，还有一些生活中的琐碎。
有句话说得好：
“相爱很难，相守更难，只有多沟通才能让感情始终保持生命力，不至于活成一潭死水。”
很多感情，就是因为沟通费力，或是无话可说，才渐渐行至陌路。
May the days to come bring you a companion with whom you can converse freely, from dawn till dusk, from black hair to white, sharing the ups and downs of life together, and laughing through the storms.

Photo: Cheng Shuwei

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No compulsion, mutual respect.

The text from "Six Records of a Floating Life" states:

Life is busy, competing over trivial matters and debating over short-term gains and losses, yet it fails to realize that prosperity and decline are predetermined, and gains and losses are hard to measure.

Living in this world, one often encounters dissatisfaction and setbacks. Gains and losses are hard to calculate, and they cannot be avoided or evaded.

As you grow older, you come to understand that saying: Some people, some things, if they are not meant for you, there is no use in forcing them.

This is true in marriage as well; there is no such thing as a couple who are 100% perfectly matched. Constantly demanding from others will only lead to their resentment and resistance.

When getting along, conflicts and arguments are inevitable, and these are merely the result of our overly eager desire for the other person to improve.

There is a saying that goes well: "If the mountain won't come to me, I'll go to the mountain."

In a marriage, instead of constantly trying to change each other, it is more important to change oneself.

Adjust your mindset, focus your time and energy on yourself, live well and strive for excellence, that is the right path.

You don't have to do anything; just your existence alone has delighted me a thousand times over.

The best marriage is about understanding, empathy, respect, and mutual commitment.

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Share the burden, share the happiness together.

看过一句话：
How many people want to find a partner to weather the storms together, only to later realize that most of the storms in life are brought by that very partner.
经历过的人都明白，这句话到底有多扎心。
明明是两个人结了婚，可生活的重担却全是自己一个人扛，甚至对方理直气壮，推卸得心安理得。
无奈，只好习惯累了自己担，苦了自己咽，学会一个人默默坚强，处处忍耐。
直到失望攒够了，就会选择离开。
In real life, no matter how passionate a heart may be, if it is hurt too much and chilled for too long, it will become as cold as ice.
因此，不要让彼此的生活变成一座孤岛，该付出时别逃避，该呵护时别吝啬，无论是在经济还是生活上，都应该替对方多分担一些。
只有相互依靠，彼此体谅，人才没有孤军奋斗的负累感，两颗心也能越靠越近，日子自然舒服而甜蜜。
就像网上的一句话：
Good feelings don't overwhelm you at once, but rather spoil you gradually over time. Life is short, and it's wonderful to have someone by your side.
夫妻之间，除了需要风花雪月的浪漫，更要有同担风雨的义气，谁都不逃避、不退缩，两个人才能一直携手，朝着幸福走下去！

Title: The Most "Comfortable" Way of Living Together Between Couples: Accumulating More and More Blessings Source: Poetry World Editor: Ding Baoxiu Responsible Editor: Song Fangcan

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Not letting oneself down is a form of success. Night reading.

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Adjust your mindset, and every moment of life is a beautiful scene. Night reading.

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People with truly high emotional intelligence would never do this. Night Reading.

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