Three Life Lessons to Understand Sooner Rather Than Later Night Reading
正所谓“一粥一饭当思来之不易”,生活中的每一件小事都值得我们用心去对待。
On the path of life, understanding these three points will make your life much smoother!
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Excessive interference in others' lives will only lead to disgust.
史铁生说:“世上的一些事多是出于瞎操心,由瞎操心再演变为穷干涉。”
一些人对于与自己无关的事情过度关注,将自己的精力和时间浪费在无谓的瞎操心上。
事实上,每个人都有自己的生活习惯和行为方式,不是被一两句话就能改变的。
过度地插手他人生活,反而会惹人厌烦。
每个人都需要有自己的空间,去探索、去犯错、去成长。
The best way to help others is by respecting their choices, supporting their decisions, rather than making decisions for them.
有句老话说的好:“人生有尺,做人有度。”
度就是做人的分寸感。
Anything, must be done with moderation; once the moderation is lost, it's easy to end up doing more harm than good with the best of intentions.
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Living solely for the approval of others will only bring suffering upon oneself.
哲学大家叔本华曾说过:“人性一个最特别的弱点,就是在意别人如何看待自己。”
世界上形形色色的人那么多,每个人都有自己的看法,无论朝哪个方向努力,总会有人对你指手画脚。
在日常生活中,大多数人都会被别人的话所影响。
但生活的真相就是,无论怎么做,你都无法让所有人满意。
有句老话说的好:“你若活在别人眼里,必将死在别人嘴里。”
过于在意别人的看法,终会被别人的话所伤。
The secret to living happily is: don't take flattering words to heart, and don't take harsh words too seriously.
幸福是养自己的心,不是养人家的眼。
Do your own thing, move towards your goals, keep striving, stay grateful, and leave the rest to time.**
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Learning to take responsibility for oneself is the key to genuine growth.****
网上有一个问题:“为什么现在的人基本上都有选择困难症,做决定时习惯问问别人?”
底下有个高赞回答是这么说的:
“因为自己做的决定,失败了没处推脱,而请教人之后,一旦结果不理想,可以归咎于别人,可减轻内心的挫败感。”
殊不知,不懂得为自己的行为负责,最终敷衍的都是自己的人生。
心理学上有一种典型的消极心态,叫“鸵鸟心态”。
鸵鸟在遇到危险时喜欢把头埋入沙堆里,以为自己眼睛看不见就是安全的。
人喜欢找借口也一样,不过都是在自欺欺人。
Instead of trying every trick to evade responsibility, it is better to face reality, acknowledge mistakes, identify the root of the problem, and then address it specifically.
只有当你敢于为自己的行为负责时,才能真正成为生活的掌控者。
How to live one's own life can only be decided by oneself.**
**我们不知道未来会是什么样子,但只要始终坚持自我成长,过好当下每一天,未来必将充满希望。
Title: "Three Life Lessons, The Earlier You Understand, The Better" Source: Every Night One Book Editor: Ding Baoxiu Responsible Editor: Song Fangcan
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