Being sincere in life is not wrong, but one should not be too open-hearted in everything. Without limits and holding nothing back will only leave oneself scarred.

不管什么时候，都要记住：再近的关系，也要保持适当的距离；再好的朋友，也要保守自己的秘密。
与人聊天时，要尽量少说自己这四件事。

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Less talk about family conflicts
自己的家事，无论好坏，不管大小，都关乎家庭的名誉，无论你和别人的关系多好，都不要把家事拿出来说，毕竟他人难以感同身受。

A good official finds it hard to settle family disputes, let alone outsiders. Some grievances, no matter how much you pour out, others can only watch from afar; some right and wrongs, if spread around, will only add fuel to the fire.

Never let a momentary mood ruin the harmony of a family. Between relatives, when you're unsure if something might hurt, then don't do it; in front of outsiders, when you're uncertain if a remark should be said, then don't say it.

Good news doesn't leave the door, bad news spreads far and wide. Once spoken, it will inevitably lead to rumors and misinformation, turning small matters into big ones and causing trouble.

万贯家财，不如家人陪伴在侧。学会处理家庭关系，不对外谈论私事，是一个人最基本的修养。
保护家人，也是保护自己。家丑不外扬，家人常欢笑，家人多安宁，就是此生最大的幸福。
Don't talk about your family background
俗话说，财不外露。不要向别人炫耀你的钱财，更不要在人前显摆你的收入。

Showing off in front of those who are wealthier than you is like being a clown; pretending to be extravagant in front of those who are less wealthy only makes the other person uncomfortable.

Truly wealthy individuals never flaunt their wealth to demonstrate their inner satisfaction. They understand that money is merely external and should not be a basis for comparison.

Not boasting, not self-aggrandizing, acting humbly, is the essence of being a person and the way to avoid trouble.

No matter how deep the affection or how good the relationship, never disclose your financial situation. Keep it vague and avoid discussing it, so as not to cause unpleasantness over money in the future.

一如《增广贤文》劝诫的那般：逢人且说三分话，未可全抛一片心。
Less talk about past achievements
俗话说：“好汉莫提当年勇”。过去的风光辉煌和成就，并不代表你现在有本事。

Dwelling on yesterday's glories and treating a single success as a lifelong achievement only invites ridicule.

Truly remarkable individuals rarely boast about their achievements; instead, they quietly accumulate strength, for they understand that the attainment of success is not an end, but rather the beginning of the next phase of effort.

古人言：“静水流深，智者无言。”谁抵得住浮华，耐得住寂寞，谁就能守住繁华，赢得命运更多的嘉奖。
因此，不要一味地炫耀自己的成就，当你真正有实力的时候，无需任何炫耀，自会吸引来钦佩你、追随你的人。**
**Talk less about future goals
人，有梦想才会有野心，有目标才会有动力，但是不能总把这些挂在嘴边。

Before it is achieved, a goal is merely a dream. If you speak of it but fail to accomplish it, you will become a laughingstock.

A person with ambition sets long-term goals, while a person without ambition sets goals frequently. Those who only shout slogans will never succeed.

When you set a goal for yourself, never tell others. If you succeed, even if you don't say it, others will see it.

Life with purpose, striving with direction, is a kind of happiness. This belief, you understand it yourself, and it doesn't need to be known by those who are irrelevant.

In dealing with people and situations, it's best to be low-key. Before you achieve your goals, we should keep our mouths shut, work hard in silence, wait for the right moment, and then astonish everyone.**
**

Title: "Philosophical Thoughts | Even in Close Relationships, It's Best to Avoid Discussing These Four Topics"

Source: People's Tribune Network Comprehensive Positive Energy, Ten O'Clock Reading, Reading Editor: Liang Jing Responsible Editor: Song Fangcan

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