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A Shanghai blogger posted a video saying

I am 30 years old this year

No family and no job

Became an "older unmarried unemployed young woman"

Not only did her father not criticize or urge her,

Instead, heart-warming and comforting

"We can understand that you have worked very hard,

So don't think too much."

In fact, as early as five years ago

This Shanghai father refused to urge marriage

And it was on hot searches

2019年春节，25岁的上海女孩卡卡（化名）记录下自己的父母的几段对话，在网上引起热议。对于当时单身的女儿，父亲说“急什么？爸爸就信奉一个缘。缘分没到，让你谈十七八个也没用。”
即便三年后还找不到对象，“也不急，急什么，二十几年也等下来了，再晚三年又怎么样？”父亲还明确表示不会去相亲角，“这么优秀的小囡，我有什么理由到相亲角去？”
“父亲拒催女儿脱单”的词条很快冲上热搜，许多网友羡慕这是“别人家的爸爸”“有爱的家庭”，但也有人说，25岁年纪还轻，再过几年父母就不是这种说法了。
Five years have passed, and my daughter is now 30 years old, still single and unemployed. Will parents be disappointed? 今年4月9日，她发布了一条新视频，这回，父亲说："Is my daughter worse? Such a hardworking child. If she doesn't work hard, that's her fault. If she works hard, what do you say about her?" 父亲坦白告诉卡卡：“难道不急吗？我们也急，甚至比你还急，只不过我们不能在你面前表现出来。为什么？因为我们能理解，你已经很努力，所以你不要想太多有的没的。”

记者采访了解到，Kaka's father is 57 years old and currently works as a security guard. 他坦言对女儿 最大的期待就是身体健康，只有身体好了、心情舒畅了，才能更好地迎接挑战。

"If I tell my daughter now what kind of job you must find this year, or that you must date a boyfriend this year, it will be unrealistic. The actual thing is to recuperate your body and do what you like. As long as she is happy, we will be happy.

If someone asks me why my daughter doesn't have a job or get married, I have no pressure, not at all. She is not the only one who is unemployed and cannot find a boyfriend. There may be various reasons, which is normal. Maybe some people think it's too casual, but in fact, nowadays, people just need to be more casual. Life is imperfect and plain, and it doesn't have to be colorful. Who can define what is colorful?"

Netizens praised and envied such a father
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