Being concerned about one's reputation is a good thing, indicating that a person has a sense of shame and ambition.

But to sacrifice substance for appearance, to ruin one's life for the sake of appearance, is undoubtedly a foolish act.

Put aside your pride, live a good life, and that's the wisdom of dealing with people.

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The more one cares about face, the more likely one is to lose face.

Face is the hardest thing for a person to let go of, yet the most useless. The more one cares about face, the more likely one is to lose face in front of others.

The less confident a person is, the more they care about their reputation. Because the more one lacks, the more they want to show off.

Spending a fortune for the sake of face inevitably leads to showing off, and this intentional or unintentional display only makes people more resentful, sooner or later it will be exposed. Therefore, the result of loving face often ends up being without face.

Face is for others to see, but days are for oneself. No matter how beautiful the face is, it cannot compare to the inner peace and ease.

As the ancients said, "Drinking water, one knows its temperature." Whether life is good or not, only one's own heart knows best. The bitterness, spiciness, sourness, and sweetness within, along with the trivial matters of family life, are not for outsiders to understand.

Instead of being concerned about others' opinions, it is better to focus more on the practical needs of yourself and your family. Within your capabilities, improve the quality of life, remain debt-free and burden-free, so that you can make your life more secure and your days more beautiful.

Living frugally, saving on expenses, and pursuing things beyond one's means, even at the cost of pretending to be wealthy, is truly a loss of face.

A true strong person focuses on their inner self, not on appearances, and thus lives with greater confidence and ease.

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Let go of your pride to regain your true worth.

《孟子》中有一个“齐人乞食”的寓言：
有一个齐国人，每天回家，都带着吃饱喝足后的满足感，对妻妾夸耀自己又被有钱有势的人请去吃饭了。
日子久了，妻子心生怀疑，决定偷偷跟踪丈夫。结果却发现，丈夫居然到城东的一片坟地，向祭奠之人讨要残羹剩饭。
要面子是人骨子里的自然品性，每个人都有，没有什么不同或不妥。但为了面子而自欺欺人、坚持错误，便会成为最没有面子的事情。

Face is the fig leaf of the incompetent; those who are truly capable of great things never take face seriously.

Lian Po offered a humble apology, sacrificing his pride for the sake of the nation; Gou Jian endured hardship and self-discipline, sacrificing his pride for the sake of revenge...

In the world of adults, there are no easy words. Everyone encounters a certain amount of setbacks in life.

Don't let face become a burden to you. When you learn to put aside your pride and start anew, the dignified life you seek will gradually unfold.**
**低头做事的人，一点都不丢人。能够让家人衣食无忧，才是最大的体面。

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Face is earned by your own strength

面子从来不是别人给的，而是靠自己的实力赢来的。
当你能放下所谓的面子，去充实自己的内在时，你才能变得越来越强大，等到里子强大了，面子自然也就有了。

Those who are capable value substance, thus continuously enhancing their inner selves and making their strength ever stronger; while those who prioritize appearances often, for the sake of so-called face, hesitate and falter, making it difficult for them to achieve greatness.

A person's face is the least valuable thing. When you have something more worthwhile to pursue and love, all cold glances and idle talk become insignificant.

Never feel embarrassed or ashamed, and being overly concerned with others' opinions and gazes will only cause you to miss out on many great opportunities for growth.

You can only possess the perseverance and courage that cannot be defeated if you can pick up and let go; you can only win applause time and time again if you are not afraid of embarrassment again and again.

Title: "Letting Go of Pride to Carry On Life"

Source: People's Tribune Network

Editor: Ding Baoxiu

Editor: Song Fangcan

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